Some people work so damn hard. And that’s a great thing, right? Well, of course. Except for those people who keep working hard at all the wrong things.
Have you ever met a person who has an excuse for almost every circumstance? A person(s) who dance around doing what actually needs to be done? It amazes me to think about how if those people put the same effort into learning and doing what had to be done, as they do with avoiding it, they’d be mighty successful. Yet many continue to make the same excuses and have the same reasons for not doing what is necessary.
We all have an excuse from time to time. Very few of them may be reasonable and just. The greater percentage of them are just dancing around the real reason we didn’t get to something. In any event,
“Don’t pee on my leg and tell me it’s raining.” – Judge Judy
If you’re going to do or not do something, just be straight up. “Why didn’t you get this done?” “Well, shoot. I must have…” Blah. Blah. Blah. How about, “Because I didn’t care to.” “It seemed more important to you than it actually was to me.”
I might not like the response, but I’ll respect it a lot more. People are smart. Many people completely understand when a person feeds them a line of crap. Again, we might not like the true answer, but there’s a really good chance it will be respected more than the lie or phony excuse.
It always brings a smile to my face when I hear people talking about making plans. “Hey, we’re going out Thursday night if you’d like to come along.” “Oh, okay, I’ll try to be there.” No you won’t. Or maybe if nothing better comes up. Or just say you don’t want to. Either way, I’ll have the true answer and will plan without you.
Avoid the excuses. Set priorities on what is most important to you. When asked or invited to do something else, be realistic. Ask yourself if it is something you actually want to do. If the answer is not “Hell yes”, then consider it a no. Take all of the energy from making excuses and use it for good. We’ll accomplish so much more. Working hard is okay.