Sometimes the truth hurts. It’s funny how differently people handle the truth. I like to think about the words I use before I use them. So, what makes certain words to be true or not? If I ever feel uncertain, I like to take a look at the definition of words. I feel, if they apply to a situation, it’s truthful to use them. It doesn’t always mean that it’s the best choice, as they’re too “harsh” for some who are too sensitive, but if it’s true then it’s true.
And sometimes the truth hurts.
Two examples could include, for instance (all defined courtesy of dictionary.com):
Smart: Having or showing quick intelligence or ready mental capability.
Stupid: Characterized by or proceeding from mental dullness; foolish; senseless
These two words are fairly close to opposites. One represents a show of intelligence and one represents a lack of intelligence. One can be stupid or smart and one can act stupid or smart. These words (usually) do not define a person as absolutely or always that way. The trouble can be that many people will say, “You called me stupid” when what was said is, “Well that was stupid.”
It’s funny how often we may refer to ourselves with such labels, but the second another person accuses us of having done a stupid thing, we get highly offended. It’s not a horrible idea to ask, “Did I do a stupid thing?” If so, it was stupid. Also known as “I am stupid,” or at least was in that moment.
The most beautiful part about this is that we have the opportunity to change these words and opinions every single day.
Some work to correct silly mistakes and carelessness and some would rather wallow and stay stagnant in the same circumstances they have always been in. They act dull, foolish, and senseless. They act stupid.
Remember, those words define stupid. If actions are equal to those words, it may be time for reevaluation. If somebody uses such words with you, it’s not the time to write home about being such a way. At least stop and ask, “Did I do those things? Am I actually that way?” It could be an enlightening opportunity to change our ways. Have I done stupid things? Yes. Have I been stupid? Yes. Do I consider myself to be stupid? Not normally, but at times. It’s the truth and sometimes the truth hurts, but only if you let it.
Leaders don’t let such words injure them. They hear, acknowledge, accept, admit, and plan to change those actions. Be a leader and learn from mistakes, but don’t be stupid.