Want a great and simple way to enhance your politeness and earn a greater amount of respect from others? This simple idea, which will take an intentional effort to implement, will help get you one step closer. It starts with your way of giving thanks.
So what the heck does that mean? It means that we should make an intentional effort to thank people in a meaningful way. After all, we say thanks because people did something for us that was valuable. So if we don’t feel like it was meaningful enough, perhaps we shouldn’t bother with thanks anyways. If it was something we found helpful, important, or meaningful, providing the right type of thank you can help them feel valued and appreciated, as well as feeling like they’d like to help in the future. So what’s a good thank you?
1. Don’t Just Say Thanks:
It sounds bland. It sounds like such little effort, one syllable, is being used to show appreciation for some bodies effort. The effort could have been small or grand, but to make it sound like it only deserved a one-word prompt can make it seem like it wasn’t fully appreciated.
2. Say “Thank You For X: This is the key. “Thank you for taking out the garbage.” “Thank you for getting that report done for me.” In these instances, we are using a complete thank you, along with what it is we are thankful for. Think of it like an apology. When you mediate a session where two people disagree and it’s time for apologies, normally you wouldn’t accept “Sorry!” as a proper sorry. You’d ask, “You’re sorry for what?” This helps to show that the person understands what they actually did wrong. It reinforces the idea in their mind, whether they like it or not. Treat your thank you’s the same way.
3. For Heaven’s Sake, Stop Using TY:
4. Reciprocate Or Give A Gift: This is another great and handy way to show appreciation. Do something nice back for the other person. See where you may be able to help them. Give them a gift, if even small. There’s way more meaning behind a nicely composed thank you card than many other physical objects. Again, express why you are thankful for what a person has done.
These are some great ways to show thanks and appreciation for other people. I’m not always perfect with these rules. In some instances I find myself saying thanks or thank you, instead of fully elaborating. I do try to catch myself and add in what I’m thankful for on the end, but I’m not always perfect. However, I’ve learned that the above strategies have helped take me far and have helped encourage teamwork, appreciation, and respect.
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