Most of us want to be heroes. Positive, inspirational, heroic, heroes. It’s admirable. We want to save the world. Unfortunately, sometimes we’re in our own way and the way of others.
We want to connect with other people and we see their potential. We might be able to save them, if only we could have one more chance. The problem is that sometimes saving a person means getting out-of-the-way.
I’ve worked with thousands of children and young adults in fifteen years in my field. From leading, directing, and coordinating hundreds of people at a time, I have learned one thing. I cannot help everybody.
It’s a bitter pill to swallow. It’s a tough thing to admit. Some people need more than what I can offer. Not everybody responds to my approach and I don’t respond well to everybody’s approach.
Yet, there are so many people who are trying to save everybody and everyone. They plead, they beg, they reason and bribe, but nothing works. Why?
Sometimes we save them when we get out-of-the-way.
It’s the person who is being abused. You can run around and do your best to protect them as long as you can, but until you get them real help, it won’t help.
The alcoholic, or worse, the person you try to help with alcohol so they may “forget” life. It’s a band-aid. It might work today, but it won’t work forever.
To think we are infallible and we can save every person in every circumstance is just plain wrong, as well as dangerous. Sometimes we must point people in another direction and other times we just have to get the hell out-of-the-way.
People are really tough to change. Sometimes, people are impossible to change.
Another problem is for folks to try to save the world when they don’t even know what they are doing in their own lives. They change their course and direction over and over, are unhappy in so many circumstances, and have no idea where they are going in life.
Then, they try to save another person, giving them a “role model” that isn’t steady. Dangerous.
- We cannot save everybody.
- Let’s help us first.