Pride. It’s good to feel proud. It’s good to show we are proud of ourselves for our accomplishments and milestones. There is such a thing as being too proud and sometimes it is costly. Sometimes, we must put our pride aside.
Pride: A feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired. (Courtesy of Google)
I do some things well. I am proud of the things that I do well. Some of those things I have learned to do on my own, but many of those things somebody else has taught me. Whether it’d be a family member, a helpful tutorial available somewhere, or a friend I can bounce ideas off, nobody does everything alone.
I do some things not so well.
It’s important to recognize our weaknesses and look for help where we might need it. It is okay to ask for help and it’s okay to say “I was wrong.” It’s okay to appreciate another’s attempt to help us, instead of feeling a jealous inadequacy. It is okay to “suck” at some things. It’s okay. There will always be somebody who is better than us and at everything. Period.
I recently learned a bit about a home improvement category where I had very little knowledge. With much thanks to some very helpful YouTube videos, I fixed two problems in one day. The feeling was awesome, but it wouldn’t have been nearly so possible without the help of a couple of great people who took the time to document their how to videos.
Knowing somebody who was having similar trouble, I offered a hand. After graciously delaying my help, I received an invite to help. Instead of doing exactly what I knew and had just done, I spent two hours following the person around as they tried everything they could to not do exactly what needed doing. It was as simple as allowing the idea I’d seen (from professionals nevertheless), tried, and found success with, to not come to fruition. Simply because I suggested it.
It was as there was no way I could perhaps be more knowledgeable about this topic than they were. I listened as this person explained how to do what I had just learned to do, except what I learned work. The three alternative solutions they did, ultimately, didn’t. We never did try the fourth, which was likely to lead to success.
Now, that person did teach me a few things, for which I am grateful.
First, another skill added to my plumbing arsenal. Second, it’s okay to ask for help and guidance. I mean, I already knew that, but it was some serious reinforcement. Third, I’d better hesitate to offer help again. Often older folks impart knowledge into younger folks, but it is possible that the young have something to teach the older as well. Babies can teach us as many lessons as a one-hundred-year-old senior citizen. We must have an open-mind.
In any event, don’t let pride stop us from learning. I learned some things from the prideful person who wouldn’t accept help, and I appreciate those three things I learned. More importantly, it’s not worth a major confrontation. I know my project was a success, thanks to the people of YouTube. If another person wants to settle for less than successful because of pride, let them.