Minimalism can be a wonderful thing. We can eliminate unnecessary belongings, commitments, and a host of other superfluous extras. One thing we might not consider is paring down the people in our lives.
Now, now, don’t go eliminating everybody from your directory. Instead, take a little time to run through your contacts. Who is in your contacts? Why are they there? When is the last time you spoke? What significance (if any) did the relationship have? These are some really good questions that can help decide whether this person is worth keeping any time or space in your life.
It’s not to say that people aren’t worth anything. It could just be a relationship that ended due to proximity, necessity, or lack of time. It could be a relationship that never really came to fruition, or was never important to the two people involved.
The fact is that your time is valuable, as is the other persons. It might be better just to consider the relationship water under the bridge for now.
It might be time for paring.
This goes for deleting contacts, Facebook “friends’, followers, and so on. This also goes for in person interactions as well. Some people will promote that you are some combination of the five people you spend the most time around. I believe there to be a lot of truth to this, and so the five people you spend the most time around should reflect who you want to be as a person, or where you’d like to go as a person. We shouldn’t lose our own identities, but we should strive to get better and grow.
Sometimes this means we will need to end unhealthy and toxic relationships. Sometimes this means we will need to have serious heart to heart conversations with the people around us. If we are afraid or cannot have those talks, the relationship is probably not that good anyways. Consider terminating it.