What jerks. How can he sit there and not say a single word? How dare she not contribute to the gossip? Who do they think they are? Do they think they’re too good for us? Before we jump off the deep end, we’ve got to remember that everybody is different and that’s what makes the world so glorious. Perhaps they are just introverts with nothing to say.
Yes, for every person who is frustrated or feels awkward by how little I have to say at times, I spend many moments wondering why some can’t stop talking. Was any thought given before that sentence came out?
Introverts often spend so much time alone, if not physically then definitely in their head.
It’s not to say an extrovert does not or cannot, but it helps to explain why the quiet exists sometimes. There’s nothing wrong with silence, despite the fact that so many in this world take pride on having the loudest roar.
I realized recently that it’s the quiet who often win out. It’s the patient who often wins. While one person might spend so much time running around and cutting up everybody under the sun, it’s the quiet one who waits for actions to come full circle. Take the high road, because it usually does come full circle.
It’s the fact that you learn twenty years later. “All this time I heard and believed it was what she was saying. And the whole time I misjudged. I’ll never make that mistake again.”
Words often come back to haunt too. This is why less is often more. How many a time has a person said something they regret? Now, how many a time has it been a large and troublesome event? Remember that silence is the hardest argument to refute and it infuriates some.
It’s often the silent few who make the difference.
While some scream about what they want and what you should want, the silent sit back and grow tired of it, making a difference when it really counts. “How did this happen? We worked so hard and we yelled so much! We screamed it at the top of our lungs!” Well, they heard. But they grew tired of it.
I saw a great comparison the other day in regards to a protest. When questioned, many of the protestors didn’t seem to know exactly what they were protesting. Of course, they destroyed their own college campus, which was interesting in itself. Protestors often feel like they’re winning, which is clear from watching the footage. They put their hands up, they yell, they “shut things down” for a short while. What they forget is that in today’s world nothing is private.
Alumni, disgusted by what they see from the youth who represent their alma mater, decide no more money will be heading that way. Parent’s will decide that such a violent college with such harsh views isn’t the place for their children. While one group might win today, it’ll be the patient and quiet who make other decisions that lead to downsizing or closures of a business. For the record, protesting is not bad. Protesting without a clue is dangerous, though.
None of this applies wholly to introverts or extroverts. The point is that to judge a person based on saying so little is wrong. Sometimes we say something by saying nothing.