Perhaps you have heard the term “circle of influence” before today. I first heard the term while reading Stephen Covey’s book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Stephen wrote about working within your circle of influence, which I will touch on here.
It’s easy to let what other people do bother us. We watch, listen, and wonder why. Why would they do that? Some of these actions take place with total strangers (outside our circle of influence). Some take place with the people closest to us (inside our circle). But the goal is to focus inside of our circle to bring change to as many people as we are able.
Working within your circle of influence starts with working on one person: you.
We don’t work on our spouse, children, parents, or co-workers. The best way to create change is to change our thinking, actions, and emotions. Working on ourselves is helpful in creating change for two reasons.
The first reason will be that our outlook and response to life will change for the better. Changing ourselves can help deal with our response. When someone does something silly in traffic, we let them pass to have their accident somewhere else or report anything too dangerous to the police. There is no need for us to get fired up by another person’s ignorance unless there is something tangible we can do to help.
The second reason is that people might see your change and adapt so. Keep in mind the word might because some will not change under any circumstance. Others will see the way you lead by example and follow along. Some will see positive change and decide it might be good for a try.
Work inside your circle of influence. Start with you, then your family, then your friends, and perhaps coworkers and other people you regularly contact. Never try to force a change on other people, but lead them to see how a change might be just what is necessary.
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