Recently off an accusation of having changed too much, I did a little self-reflection before I realized something. Some people will use the word change where other people will use the word growth.
In the past several years I’ve made some changes. All these changes were well-intentioned to help me and the people around me. I believed these changes would help the people around me by giving them a better version of me. Please understand, I’m not easily swayed by the voice of others but I am a fan of self-reflection. Input is important, but what comes out of it must be rational.
So, a few changes. I stopped working in pro hockey, something I loved but realized it could hurt a relationship and family with the long hours and travel. I decided to become a minimalist, realizing that many things I carried around from city to city and move to move were pointless. I’d often leave items behind and then I would think to myself about how they couldn’t have been so important if I left them behind. I’ve enhanced the way I eat big time. I eat way better than my twenty-year-old self and I’m very proud of this. I’ve started writing, something I always enjoyed as a child. And I’ve published books, something I take great pride in.
To hear that someone or some people feel I’ve “changed” over the past several years makes me wonder… I didn’t take up any drug or illegal activity. I’m not out hurting people or endangering lives. The changes I’ve made, I made consciously because I thought they would help me (and most have) and the people around me.
As a result, I feel more useful, effective, friendly, and responsive. Now, that is only my opinion, but all of this self-reflection led to this conclusion.
Some will say change, others will say growth.
Change often faces negative use. “Boy, she changed.” “Wow, did he change.” Not always, but often.
Growth is not normally used as a negative term. Growth has a definition that means it increases in size or capacity.
In my opinion, I didn’t just change, I grew. So I grew.
Just because another person wants to remain stagnant or perhaps even regress, don’t let it stop you. Don’t give in to this. Continue to grow.
Sure, we could say, “We’re a work in progress with a lifetime contract.” It’s true and there’s nothing about it that’s false. But that’s for the ones who want a cop-out.
Otherwise, please be proud to declare that, “You are your best version that’s only going to get better from here. Get on board or get out-of-the-way world.”