It’s so easy to become complacent and adapt to our everyday surroundings. Part of this leads to a feeling of comfort and can make it easy for us to take things for granted, whether we mean to or not. Eventually we have to say goodbye.
I recently learned that another co-worker (who turned into a good friend) will be leaving our organization. While I have grown used to it, it’s still often saddening.
I work in a field where we hire mostly young seasonal employees, some of who stick around for a year and some of who stick around for ten years. In the big picture, they come and go like the changing wind. Just when you’ve found your rhythm, it’s time to say goodbye.
I thought about this in terms of my work in recreation. Then I thought about this in terms of my days in hockey. Right when you finally picked your captain, decided on the guy who would help get you there, business would strike. He would be traded. “Now I’ve got to start all over again?!”
Sometimes it seems unfair. Sometimes I feel like the George Feeny of the modern world, thanks to the comings and goings of children, co-workers, and others. But then I realize I’m not alone.
The goodbye is often the hardest part, but they are a normal part of life for everybody.
A friend may be moving away, a coworker moving on. Ultimately, it could be the death of a person in our circle. Goodbyes are inevitable.
The good news is, there are always new shots at hello and opportunities. Plus, ultimately, it might not be goodbye. There’s always the opportunity to see you later or keep in touch, especially in today’s connected world. Even when it comes to death, many people believe we’ll have our friends waiting on the other side. I’m not agreeing or disagreeing with that fact, but nobody here knows for sure.
Enjoy the people around you now. Enjoy the time you have now. Before you know it they are gone. Before you know it, it is gone. Don’t be too sad about it. Be happy about the potential and opportunities that exist now.