I’ve spent so much time thinking about what to say lately, and when to say what I’d like to say. Too much time. And it’s tough because there is so much to say (stay tuned by the way). As Thanksgiving looms, I’m reflecting on what really matters. At times, I believed it was a job, but those are everywhere. It’s the true friends that are tough to find.
A job will look different in ten years. Hell, it’ll look different in one. When a true friend comes along, we’ve got to hold on forever. Blinded we get by security, money, benefits, “power,” and the likes that come with a job and titles. But you’ll leave that job someday. Or, perhaps that job will leave you. But a real friend will show up each and every time you are down. A real friend will forgive just about anything, even if it seems completely unforgivable.
I always went to work saying that I wasn’t there to make friends.
To be fair, I said that if I made some along the way it would be a bonus. And boy did I ever. I was fortunate to be a part of teams of people way smarter than me, people way cooler than me, and people who have so much to offer to the world. The funny thing is, that while many looked up to me, I looked up to them. I still do.
You may never really know the impact you have on a person (and vice-versa) until they are “gone” from your life, especially when you work together every single day of the year. You learn a lot of things about the people you work with. From the negative gossip girl who won’t stop speaking badly about every person around them, to the people who will stay in touch for the rest of your life. You’ll see what true friendship is really like. You can overcome the worst of the worst management if you stick together with great co-workers, especially when true friendships form.
This Thanksgiving, I’m happy to know just how many people have my back at a time I need it. Let’s call these people, real friends. For all of those times when you get to have the backs of others, it truly pays dividends. We’ve just got to remember that true friendship will last forever, even when jobs come and go.