It’s a funny thing really. A few years ago we moved into a place that had a ton of flowers, plants, and other items that resembled a garden. I did a good deal of research into flowers, foundations, and wet basements and realized that it might be best to remove these items to help keep moisture away from the foundation. I dug, pulled, tore, and did everything I could to get every last plant out of the ground… So I thought. I gave no consideration to go with the flow.
Each year I am amazed at how the flowers, bulbs, and other weeds grow up through the ground. All of that after I put so much time into digging, pulling, removing, and more!? How could that possibly be?
The other day, I left my home and noticed the most beautiful of daisies growing outside. There didn’t seem to be daisies before… How could I have missed them? Also, remember all that pulling I did? There should be nothing growing out of the ground at this rate. How could that be?
It’s a subtle reminder to me. We can’t fight certain things in life. We can’t fight mother nature, she will win. She can blow us around with the wind, soak us through with rain, and startle us with thunder. She can also calm us with quiet, warm us with the sun, and brighten our days with nice weather. All we can do is adapt to the surroundings and make the most out of things.
Perhaps that is why people like to garden so much. Myself, I didn’t inherit any sort of green thumb. I have a particular dislike for the outdoors and I have a way of killing most plants that I touch. As much as I tried to eliminate the plants outside, they continue to win. And it’s not that I hate plants or couldn’t have left them alone. I was simply trying to protect my foundation. The interesting part is that it’s a battle I might not win, or might not want to fight anyways.
We can’t control other people, nor can we control what they say, do, or how they act. We can control us and we can make decisions based on the things that they say and do, but that’s all we can do. It’s a lesson that the Earth reminds me of here and there. You can attempt to get every last leaf, but there will be another to fall or blow into your yard. You may attempt to get every last snowflake, but more will fall and blow onto your driveway. We have two choices really… Go with the flow and adapt or go crazy.
Learn to love (or at least tolerate) the things you cannot control. Go with the flow.
Check out Ignore The Noise: Focus On What Matters. This can help remind you to ignore the unimportant and go with the flow.