There is an instinctual and definite feeling we get when we hear or see certain people. When thinking of some people we are enveloped with a warm, welcoming, and fuzzy feeling. When thinking of other people we may cringe, and worry about what possible “thing” we’ll have to deal with this time. Obviously (I’d say), we should aim to be the former. We should aim to be “Easy to”.
What do I mean be easy to?
Well, easy to deal with. Easy to talk to. Easy to listen to. Easy to do business with, easy to trust. Hopefully you get the point. I’m not saying I’m always easy to deal with, but I strive to make most people feel like I am. Some of that comes from specific interactions with other people, because some will mistake your ease for something else.
“Don’t mistake my kindness for weakness.”
Regardless, some people will. So your definition of ease might fluctuate for those people, at least a little. Being easy to deal with doesn’t mean you need to be, or should be pushed over. It doesn’t mean you have to agree with everything everybody says. It simply means choosing battles wisely, practicing patience, remaining calm and clear, among other things.
If you’re a parent: Be reasonable. Your child may do things wrong. It’s fine. Kids are learning. In fact, they probably learned that behavior from somebody pretty close to them. (See mirror)
If you’re an employee: Your boss isn’t perfect. They weren’t hired because they were perfect. They were hired because they are (or somebody thought so) really good at what their job is.
If you’re the boss: Your employees aren’t perfect. Your job is to help them get as good as they can. Hopefully they’d like to accomplish this for themselves as well.
There are just a few examples, but they are ways to be simpler to deal with. The world could be a better place if we all tried to make it a little less complicated. Not everybody will join in this parade. You’ll still have the vile spitting, drama flinging folks who’d rather hide their lack of abilities and insecurities through a dust storm. That’s fine. You’re easier to deal with now. You won’t even notice.