I never understood it. How could relationships to other people and things be so good and then so bad, so bad that people ask for a divorce? It never made any sense. Sometimes it takes a little perspective and experience before understanding. This post is proof as I recently dropped everything I was doing to write it. Sometimes you find inspiration, but sometimes it finds you.
Divorce can pertain to many things.
Marriage, friendship, work, or divorcing certain items or things. Sometimes you just have to know when enough is enough. Sometimes you’ve just got to know when to say goodbye. It’s unhealthy, at a certain point, to stick around for the sake of it or because it’s what you’ve always done.
The truth is that people change. The other truth is that sometimes people don’t change. Even worse, some people change by not changing. Yeah, figure that one out. Change can be for the better or worse. Not changing can leave a person stagnant, with the same mindset, beliefs, and attitude as when they were 14. When a person gets to be 25, 30, 40, 50, and older, and they are the same person as when they were 14, that probably isn’t a positive thing.
Don’t stick around just because.
In marriage, it’s the old “stay together for the kids” mentality. Don’t do it. Two people separated could be way better for the kids anyways. Notice I didn’t say it would be, but in many instances, it could be. But don’t just go with the status quo.
It’s not worth it for one person to lose their sanity because of a bad relationship to anything. When the effort is there, constant, and in good faith, know when it’s time to save yourself and abandon ship. Some might call you a quitter, but other’s will understand and realize you worked your ass off to make a situation work. Sometimes it’s just not meant to be and sometimes we make bad judgment calls. Sometimes we get things wrong. Staying in the situation could be a great way to stay on the wrong path we started on, making it even more wrong. Save your sanity, save your energy. Save yourself. Know when is enough.
For more on this topic, check out Ignore The Noise: Focus On What Matters.