We all know the grass is always greener on the other side, right? Hopefully you sensed the sarcasm there. It’s appalling how we view so many things in life as “hostage situations”. This is a reminder that it’s (probably) not a hostage situation we face. Either live with your choices without complaining about them constantly, or find a way to improve the situation.
We all know them, and we may even be them. If not always, it happens from time to time. Some make choices and decisions, often with gratitude and excitement, and then look at ourselves as the victims or unfortunate later on. We spend time complaining.
Time that, if we spent being productive rather than complaining, would improve our happiness tenfold.
The fact is that we all create our own life circumstances. We can always change our circumstances if we’d like, but we have to try.
That job you felt lucky to have when you took it? It’s never going to pay “enough” money. We will always find a way to spend the extra. It might be on cable, on a home, on a cell phone, on children, on entertainment, or a number of other things. We’re lucky to have work. Any work. And if you live in America, you’re probably in the top 10% worldwide for income earning.
That sparkling new relationship turned sour? The grass is always greener on the other side. Whether you are boyfriend and girlfriend, engaged, or married, yes, somebody will always treat you better… at first. The fact of the matter is that the shine wears off eventually with most everything. The new car, the new house, the new phone, the new computer, the new relationship. It’s not always best to jump ship. In fact, it’s usually never better to jump ship. The grass will often look better on the other side. Once you get there you’ll likely see it’s not greener.
Those were only two situations which seem common. People who hate the work they do everyday. People who hate their relationships, want out, and cheat. It’s easy to feel these feelings from time to time, especially when things are at there worst.
We’ve got to take the bad with the good and vice versa.
We made the decisions which led us to where we are today. Don’t take it out on the rest of the world around. It’s not everyone else’s fault. Vows were exchanged, deals and promises were made, and we were (likely) happy to accept them in the moment. Remember why we were so happy to begin. Polish off that relationship, job, and whatever else you’re tired with. If that can’t be done, remember that it’s not a hostage situation. We can all change our circumstances if we actually try.