Isn’t it funny how the most difficult conversations in life are often the most life changing and inspirational? Yet, many people intend to avoid this type of open communication because it’s “difficult.” I get it. Saying certain things to somebody isn’t easy. Also, hearing certain things isn’t easy either. Yet I’ve found that many of these types of conversations have opened my eyes. These types of conversations provide clarity, direction, and inspiration.
Open communication like this is a great relationship enhancer.
Many people (myself included) have a greater appreciation for others who are blunt, straightforward, and to the point. Having people around us who are polite, but assertive when they tell us the way things are, can offer us a much grander appreciation of those people. It leaves us with the sense of, “Wow. That was a tough thing to hear. It must have been an even harder thing to say.” This is especially true when it comes from a loved one, but more important because these people know us the best.
I don’t recommend going out today and telling everybody what’s on your mind because of this. Some people will never like the truth, accept the truth, admit the truth, and will take offense no matter how you break it to them. There’s must exist a rapport with a person (for the most part) and it’s tough to waste our time on people who are blind to the truth.
In contrast to how open communication can enhance a relationship, closed communication can injure one.
Being “too afraid” to tell somebody something, especially the “person(s) who is closest to you,” will never help in a relationship. Those people should act as the ones who want you to know something the most. Those people should want you as the best person more than anybody else. They should want you as the best person, if not for you, then for themselves. After all, who wants to play for a lousy team?
So that’s it. Be open. Communicate in an honest way. Many people will appreciate you more for it. For the ones who don’t, decide whether they are worth keeping around.
For some great life lessons, check out Life Lessons From Summer Camp. There, I share several lessons I’ve taken away from over 20 years participating and working in summer camps.