It’s been said that we are, largely, a direct reflection of the five people we surround ourselves with most. Hence, we should make sure we are happy with the inner circle we choose for ourself.
We can easily take for granted the effect that the people around us (our inner circle) have on us. Be it positive or negative, happy or sad, motivated or lazy, all the traits that we choose to surround ourselves with tend to rub off on us, if even a little.
It’s important to surround ourselves with people who have the traits and characteristics we would like to emulate. This doesn’t necessarily mean being a follower. Rather, I’ll equate it to catching a cold; you’ll have a greater chance of catching the illness if you are near the person. The same holds true about catching the attitudes, traits, and styles of the people nearest you (except it’s not an illness… well maybe). We each have our own individualism and personalities, but can and will be influenced by the people around us.
So, do you want to lose weight? If so, hang out with people who are losing or have lost weight. Don’t hang around people who complain about being overweight, or talk about losing weight. Want to be wealthy? Don’t sit around complaining about a lack of money or spending time with people who’d rather complain about this as well. Want to be more positive? Don’t dedicate time to being around somebody who always sees the negative side of things first.
The examples could go on forever, and we all know examples of people who’d rather sit around, complain, and say life is unfair. The truth is that we control our own destinies. It might mean we have to cut some of the toxicity out of our lives. It’s the same reason I choose not to watch drama (movies, TV, etc.). I don’t like drama for the sake of drama. I don’t want to exaggerate, embellish, and blow things out of proportion. I may still do these things from time to time, but I realize that tuning in to the wrong content or being around the wrong people could make me more “dramatic”. Drama might be your thing, but it’s not mine.
So choose that inner circle wisely.
We must choose the way we spend our days wisely, because we won’t get a second chance to do them again.