We all know more than we might give ourselves credit for. “Going with your gut” is a real thing. There will still be times when we hope to get a second opinion, but we shouldn’t take the advice of just anybody.
I was involved in a conversation with a friend the other day and found myself in a position where I thought I could offer a little help. I repeated some of the best advice that I’d ever received.
- Trust yourself and give yourself time.
- Rarely (almost never) take the advice of a person who hasn’t been in your shoes.
So many times we ask people for advice without considering their knowledge behind it. We might trust a person on certain subjects, but that doesn’t mean we should look in one direction for all subjects. If we think about it logically, we wouldn’t ask a scientist how to become a professional baseball player. It’d be more rational to go to a professional baseball player who’d share some tips.
Yet, we often listen to advice from people who have no experience where we are.
Even if we don’t follow their recommendations, often we let it sway us. Even worse, sometimes the advice comes unsolicited. Perhaps the advice even comes in the form of criticism. “You’d be stupid to leave your job and go into business on your own.” Is that so? Or is that an opinion of a person who is being negative? It could be a person trying to limit what you do. It could be a person who is unwilling to accept that their own life needs change.
None of this is absolute truth, but the ideas are accurate in many instances. We’ve got to remember to check our own compass. We also need to keep in mind that some decisions should be made quickly, but others we can sit on for a little while.
Remember to trust yourself. If you ever feel like that’s tough to do and you’d like some assistance, make your first question sound like this: “Hey, I’m going through this. Have you ever been through something like this?” If the answer is no, look elsewhere.